Episodes
Friday Nov 06, 2020
71: We'll All Be A OK
Friday Nov 06, 2020
Friday Nov 06, 2020
This is it - the final episode! Thank you so much to everyone for listening and supporting A OK. It was such an honor to host this podcast. Keep being amazing.
Warnings: swearing
Courtney's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/qwartney
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Oct 30, 2020
70: Cool Boy Shane
Friday Oct 30, 2020
Friday Oct 30, 2020
Shane (he/him) is an animator and YouTuber who is demisexual and demiromantic. Shane talks about his experiences as someone who is both demisexual and demiromantic, his animated Dungeons and Dragons series on YouTube, and his own podcast called “Podcasts & Players.”
Warnings: swearing, mentions of porn, masturbation, and castration
Shane's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUTNGafHJVmonQtWXP3dESw
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Oct 23, 2020
69: Love Yourself: Answer
Friday Oct 23, 2020
Friday Oct 23, 2020
Kay (she/her) is a BTS Army who is panromantic and asexual. Kay talks about discovering her asexuality, her experience in a sexually coercive relationship, and how BTS has been a positive influence on her life.
Kay's fanfiction story: https://archiveofourown.org/works/20104624/chapters/47624020
Warnings: sexual abuse and coercion
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Oct 16, 2020
68: Leveling Up
Friday Oct 16, 2020
Friday Oct 16, 2020
Shimona (she/her) is a curious human who is asexual. Shimona talks about struggling with being “a-okay” about her asexuality, preferring to live solo and child-free, and how that all intersects with her family-oriented religion.
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Oct 09, 2020
67: Meet Me Under the Clock
Friday Oct 09, 2020
Friday Oct 09, 2020
Marshall (he/him) is The Gentle Giant Ace, who identifies as asexual and aromantic. Marshall talks about his experience as a Black ace activist, growing up in the midwest, and photography!
Warnings: swearing
Twitter: @TheAceGentle
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsw6zzoKlskACsfRs0sZ20g
Friday Oct 02, 2020
66. Dismantle the Gender Binary
Friday Oct 02, 2020
Friday Oct 02, 2020
Kelsey (they/them) is a writer and Alexis Rose enthusiast who is queer/gay and asexual. Kelsey shares their story of figuring out they’re asexual and nonbinary, their experience writing BIFL: The Series, and how much the show Sex Education means to them.
Warnings: swearing, Sex Education spoilers
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Sep 25, 2020
65: What Will the People Think?
Friday Sep 25, 2020
Friday Sep 25, 2020
Clawy (they/them) is an artist who is asexual and aroflux. Clawy talks about their experience discovering the term asexual, how their cultural upbringing intersects with asexuality, and their joy of writing.
Warnings: mentions of aphobia
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Sep 18, 2020
64: Growing Up Evangelical
Friday Sep 18, 2020
Friday Sep 18, 2020
Michael (he/they) is a music director who is cupiosexual and demiromantic. Michael talks about labels, their experience with evangelicalism, and writing for theater.
Warnings: religion, homophobia
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Sep 11, 2020
63: Ace by Angela Chen
Friday Sep 11, 2020
Friday Sep 11, 2020
Angela Chen (she/her) is an author and writer who is asexual and biromantic. Angela talks about her upcoming book Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex.
Angela's book: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/ace-angela-chen/1136968395?ean=9780807013793
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Sep 04, 2020
62: I'm a Person, You're a Person, Let's Make Out!
Friday Sep 04, 2020
Friday Sep 04, 2020
Sorabeth (hen) is a florist who is aromantic and asexual. Sorabeth talks about crafts, being a florist, and dating!
Warnings: mentions of masturbation, sex, swearing
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Aug 28, 2020
61: I Am Okay With Being Alone
Friday Aug 28, 2020
Friday Aug 28, 2020
V (she/her) is a filmmaker who is asexual and heteroromantic. V talks about having haphephobia, being a director in Hollywood, and her love of wigs!
Warnings: mentions of fatphobia
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Aug 21, 2020
60: Storytelling
Friday Aug 21, 2020
Friday Aug 21, 2020
Ben (they/them) is a storyteller who is asexual, greyromantic, and nonbinary. Ben talks briefly about some of the struggles that Native Americans face, what it’s like to be married with kids as an asexual, storytelling, and building languages.
Native American Rights Fund: https://www.narf.org/
Dr. Adrienne Keene: @NativeApprops
Some more great resources on twitter:
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Aug 14, 2020
59: Grass is green, sky is blue, Grandma has a girlfriend
Friday Aug 14, 2020
Friday Aug 14, 2020
Juniper (she/her) is a college student and pinball player who is aromantic and bisexual. Juniper talks about her experience dating someone who is alloromantic, as well as how to play competitive pinball.
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Aug 07, 2020
58: A Conversation with Yasmin Benoit
Friday Aug 07, 2020
Friday Aug 07, 2020
Yasmin Benoit (she/her) is a model and aromantic and asexuality activist who is aromantic and asexual. Yasmin talks about #ThisIsWhatAsexualLooksLike, heavy metal, and Crime Science.
To be fully transparent, this interview was recorded in mid-June. We reached out to Yasmin about adding a segment regarding the incident on Twitter, and after discussing possibilities, the A OK team decided to publish the episode as-is.
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Jul 31, 2020
57: It's SFBO's Birthday!
Friday Jul 31, 2020
Friday Jul 31, 2020
Sarah Costello (she/her) is ace/aro, and Kayla Kaszyca (she/her) is demisexual/heteroromantic. Sarah and Kayla host the well-known podcast Sounds Fake But Okay. In this episode, we discuss their separate journeys discovering their identities, the three-year anniversary of Sounds Fake But Okay, quidditch, and papermaking.
Kayla’s Papergram: @pridepaper
Warnings: mentions of transphobia, swearing, vomit imitation noise
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Jul 24, 2020
56: Friends and Corgis
Friday Jul 24, 2020
Friday Jul 24, 2020
Nik (she/her) is a grey-asexual and demisexual University student. Nik talks about how it felt to discovery the term asexual, why it’s difficult to come out to her parents, and her love of corgis.
Warnings: mentions of homophobia
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Jul 17, 2020
55: Happiness Doesn't Have to Come from Love
Friday Jul 17, 2020
Friday Jul 17, 2020
Thay (she/her) is an asexual/demiromantic writer. Thay talks about how music, dancing, and writing all intersect with her asexuality.
Made-Man: Heroes Are Made: https://my.w.tt/nNberiMh97
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Jul 10, 2020
54: Kink isn't Sexual For Me
Friday Jul 10, 2020
Friday Jul 10, 2020
Ian (he/him) is an analyst, podcaster, and travel writer who identifies as asexual. Ian explains how helpful the split attraction model is for him, how kink feels separate from his sexuality, and traveling as the Barefoot Backpacker.
Blog: https://barefoot-backpacker.com/
Podcast: Travel Tales from Beyond the Brochure
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Jul 03, 2020
53: Romance Feels Theoretical
Friday Jul 03, 2020
Friday Jul 03, 2020
Rebecca (she/her) is a cat mom who identifies as arospec and asexual. Rebecca talks about the difficulty figuring out her romantic orientation, dating challenges, and her experience founding Arts Healing Hearts, a charity in Toronto, Canada.
Arts Healing Hearts: https://artshealinghearts.org/
Redemption Paws: http://redemptionpaws.org/
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Organizations to Donate to:
ACLU: https://www.aclu.org/;
Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatter.com/;
Black Visions Collective: https://www.blackvisionsmn.org/;
Black Women’s Blueprint: https://www.blackwomensblueprint.org/;
Campaign Zero: https://www.joincampaignzero.org/;
Color of Change: https://colorofchange.org/;
Grass Roots Law Project: https://www.grassrootslaw.org/;
LGBTQ Freedom Fund: https://www.lgbtqfund.org/;
Minnesota Justice Healing Network: https://www.minnesotahealingjusticenetwork.com/;
MN Fund Hub (@MNFundHub on Venmo): https://www.instagram.com/p/CA545NzlYy7/?igshid=1mmwhtr38zx2y;
MPLS NAACP: http://www.mplsnaacp.org/;
NAACP: https://www.naacp.org/;
NAACP Legal Defense Fund: https://www.naacpldf.org/;
National Bail Fund Network: https://www.communityjusticeexchange.org/nbfn-directory;
Reclaim The Block: https://secure.everyaction.com/zae4prEeKESHBy0MKXTIcQ2;
List of local Minneapolis organizations by Reclaim the Block: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1yLWGTQIe3967hdc9RSxBq5s6KKZHe-3_mWp5oemd7OA/preview?fbclid=IwAR2O4n_VtcNoIyJQ9hoKoLbgz2BxsDVvMEpHQt8Zg1CXpYnGFzVB3eLdlMw&pru=AAABcp_Lno4*qTdCXtwQfeYVP204YSPOkw;
Friday Jun 26, 2020
52: Making Up Crushes
Friday Jun 26, 2020
Friday Jun 26, 2020
Chio (she/her) is a comic artist who identifies as asexual and greyromantic. Chio talks about creating comics, how labels can be helpful, and why romance is so hard to figure out.
Organizations to Donate to:
ACLU: https://www.aclu.org/;
Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatter.com/;
Black Visions Collective: https://www.blackvisionsmn.org/;
Black Women’s Blueprint: https://www.blackwomensblueprint.org/;
Campaign Zero: https://www.joincampaignzero.org/;
Color of Change: https://colorofchange.org/;
Grass Roots Law Project: https://www.grassrootslaw.org/;
LGBTQ Freedom Fund: https://www.lgbtqfund.org/;
Minnesota Justice Healing Network: https://www.minnesotahealingjusticenetwork.com/;
MN Fund Hub (@MNFundHub on Venmo): https://www.instagram.com/p/CA545NzlYy7/?igshid=1mmwhtr38zx2y;
MPLS NAACP: http://www.mplsnaacp.org/;
NAACP: https://www.naacp.org/;
NAACP Legal Defense Fund: https://www.naacpldf.org/;
National Bail Fund Network: https://www.communityjusticeexchange.org/nbfn-directory;
Reclaim The Block: https://secure.everyaction.com/zae4prEeKESHBy0MKXTIcQ2;
List of local Minneapolis organizations by Reclaim the Block: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1yLWGTQIe3967hdc9RSxBq5s6KKZHe-3_mWp5oemd7OA/preview?fbclid=IwAR2O4n_VtcNoIyJQ9hoKoLbgz2BxsDVvMEpHQt8Zg1CXpYnGFzVB3eLdlMw&pru=AAABcp_Lno4*qTdCXtwQfeYVP204YSPOkw;
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Jun 19, 2020
51: I Love Myself Now
Friday Jun 19, 2020
Friday Jun 19, 2020
Raymond (he/him) is an LGBTQIA+ activist and erotica photographer who identifies as aromantic and queer fluid. Raymond talks about how being trans relates to how he figured out his orientation; how being a leatherboy intersects with his identities; and how the BDSM community emphasizes self love, consent, and healing.
Warnings: mentions of abuse, swearing
Organizations to Donate to:
ACLU: https://www.aclu.org/;
Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatter.com/;
Black Visions Collective: https://www.blackvisionsmn.org/;
Black Women’s Blueprint: https://www.blackwomensblueprint.org/;
Campaign Zero: https://www.joincampaignzero.org/;
Color of Change: https://colorofchange.org/;
Grass Roots Law Project: https://www.grassrootslaw.org/;
LGBTQ Freedom Fund: https://www.lgbtqfund.org/;
Minnesota Justice Healing Network: https://www.minnesotahealingjusticenetwork.com/;
MN Fund Hub (@MNFundHub on Venmo): https://www.instagram.com/p/CA545NzlYy7/?igshid=1mmwhtr38zx2y;
MPLS NAACP: http://www.mplsnaacp.org/;
NAACP: https://www.naacp.org/;
NAACP Legal Defense Fund: https://www.naacpldf.org/;
National Bail Fund Network: https://www.communityjusticeexchange.org/nbfn-directory;
Reclaim The Block: https://secure.everyaction.com/zae4prEeKESHBy0MKXTIcQ2;
List of local Minneapolis organizations by Reclaim the Block: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1yLWGTQIe3967hdc9RSxBq5s6KKZHe-3_mWp5oemd7OA/preview?fbclid=IwAR2O4n_VtcNoIyJQ9hoKoLbgz2BxsDVvMEpHQt8Zg1CXpYnGFzVB3eLdlMw&pru=AAABcp_Lno4*qTdCXtwQfeYVP204YSPOkw;
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Jun 12, 2020
50: Welcome! You’re here! Have some cake!
Friday Jun 12, 2020
Friday Jun 12, 2020
David Jay (he/him) is the founder of AVEN and an ace activist, parent, and community organizer. David talks about his own experience discovering asexuality as a sexuality and not a disorder, how AVEN (The Asexual Visibility and Education Network) started, his journey as a third parent, and why aromantic relationships are awesome.
AVEN: www.asexuality.org
Organizations to Donate to:
ACLU: https://www.aclu.org/;
Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatter.com/;
Black Visions Collective: https://www.blackvisionsmn.org/;
Black Women’s Blueprint: https://www.blackwomensblueprint.org/;
Campaign Zero: https://www.joincampaignzero.org/;
Color of Change: https://colorofchange.org/;
Grass Roots Law Project: https://www.grassrootslaw.org/;
LGBTQ Freedom Fund: https://www.lgbtqfund.org/;
Minnesota Justice Healing Network: https://www.minnesotahealingjusticenetwork.com/;
MN Fund Hub (@MNFundHub on Venmo): https://www.instagram.com/p/CA545NzlYy7/?igshid=1mmwhtr38zx2y;
MPLS NAACP: http://www.mplsnaacp.org/;
NAACP: https://www.naacp.org/;
NAACP Legal Defense Fund: https://www.naacpldf.org/;
National Bail Fund Network: https://www.communityjusticeexchange.org/nbfn-directory;
Reclaim The Block: https://secure.everyaction.com/zae4prEeKESHBy0MKXTIcQ2;
List of local Minneapolis organizations by Reclaim the Block: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1yLWGTQIe3967hdc9RSxBq5s6KKZHe-3_mWp5oemd7OA/preview?fbclid=IwAR2O4n_VtcNoIyJQ9hoKoLbgz2BxsDVvMEpHQt8Zg1CXpYnGFzVB3eLdlMw&pru=AAABcp_Lno4*qTdCXtwQfeYVP204YSPOkw;
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Jun 05, 2020
Justice for George Floyd
Friday Jun 05, 2020
Friday Jun 05, 2020
Official George Floyd Memorial Fund: https://www.gofundme.com/f/georgefloyd;
Justice for Breonna Taylor: https://www.gofundme.com/f/9v4q2-justice-for-breonna-taylor;
In Memory of Tony McDade: https://www.gofundme.com/f/in-memory-of-tony-mcdade;
I Run With Maud (Ahmaud Arbery Fund): https://www.gofundme.com/f/i-run-with-maud;
Justice for David McAtee: https://www.gofundme.com/f/justicefordavidmcatee;
For James Scurlock’s Family: https://www.gofundme.com/f/for-james-scurlocks-family;
Organizations:
ACLU: https://www.aclu.org/;
Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatter.com/;
Black Visions Collective: https://www.blackvisionsmn.org/;
Black Women’s Blueprint: https://www.blackwomensblueprint.org/;
Campaign Zero: https://www.joincampaignzero.org/;
Color of Change: https://colorofchange.org/;
Grass Roots Law Project: https://www.grassrootslaw.org/;
LGBTQ Freedom Fund: https://www.lgbtqfund.org/;
Minnesota Justice Healing Network: https://www.minnesotahealingjusticenetwork.com/;
MN Fund Hub (@MNFundHub on Venmo): https://www.instagram.com/p/CA545NzlYy7/?igshid=1mmwhtr38zx2y;
MPLS NAACP: http://www.mplsnaacp.org/;
NAACP: https://www.naacp.org/;
NAACP Legal Defense Fund: https://www.naacpldf.org/;
National Bail Fund Network: https://www.communityjusticeexchange.org/nbfn-directory;
Reclaim The Block: https://secure.everyaction.com/zae4prEeKESHBy0MKXTIcQ2;
List of local Minneapolis organizations by Reclaim the Block: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1yLWGTQIe3967hdc9RSxBq5s6KKZHe-3_mWp5oemd7OA/preview?fbclid=IwAR2O4n_VtcNoIyJQ9hoKoLbgz2BxsDVvMEpHQt8Zg1CXpYnGFzVB3eLdlMw&pru=AAABcp_Lno4*qTdCXtwQfeYVP204YSPOkw;
Education:
Black Revolutionary Texts from Alijah Webb (@webbjalijah): https://drive.google.com/drive/u/0/folders/18y0_2wm85L113fVWYdgljq9uuIlmlbl3;
Justice in June Lesson Plan from Bryanna Wallace and Autumn Gupta (@autumn_bry): https://docs.google.com/document/d/1H-Vxs6jEUByXylMS2BjGH1kQ7mEuZnHpPSs1Bpaqmw0/preview?pru=AAABcprdPWw*VqdZIggAtO_pcSbYVK1l4Q;
An Anti-Racist Reading List by Ibram X. Kendi for NYT (@DrIbram): https://www.nytimes.com/2019/05/29/books/review/antiracist-reading-list-ibram-x-kendi.html;
Scaffolded Anti-Racist Resources by Anna Stamborski, Nikki Zimmermann, and Bailie Gregory: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1PrAq4iBNb4nVIcTsLcNlW8zjaQXBLkWayL8EaPlh0bc/mobilebasic;
Anti-Racism Resources for White People: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1BRlF2_zhNe86SGgHa6-VlBO-QgirITwCTugSfKie5Fs/preview?pru=AAABcpsa6cw*8jY8IGfWoGhQH-4joitfcg;
Reading for Racial Justice by University of Minnesota Press’s Library of Open-Access Titles: https://manifold.umn.edu/projects/project-collection/racial-justice;
Anti-Racism Resource Collection: http://www.resourcesharingproject.org/anti-racism-resource-collection;
Black owned businesses:
Thread of black owned businesses from Alyssa D Silos (@Alythuh on twitter): https://twitter.com/Alythuh/status/1267846692482605057;
That Pride Shop: https://thatprideshop.com/;
Gothic Lamb: https://gothiclamb.com/;
Black owned businesses in the Twin Cities by Mpls St Paul Magazine: http://mspmag.com/arts-and-culture/black-owned-businesses-in-the-twin-cities/;
Friday May 29, 2020
49: Not the Only Ace in the Family
Friday May 29, 2020
Friday May 29, 2020
Ria Faustino (she/her) is an aspiring animator and full-time weeb who identifies as asexual and aromantic. Ria talks about her journey discovering her asexuality, her senior project, and Dungeons and Dragons.
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday May 22, 2020
48: Coparent vs. Coworker
Friday May 22, 2020
Friday May 22, 2020
Ess (they/them) is a voice actor who identifies as asexual and aromantic. Ess talks about growing up in India, their previous misconceptions around marriage, and their journey to discovering their gender identity.
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday May 15, 2020
47: Recovery
Friday May 15, 2020
Friday May 15, 2020
Josh (he/him) is an engineering student in recovery who identifies as asexual and panromantic. Josh talks about his journey with recovery and how the split attraction model helped him come to terms with his asexuality.
Josh's bandcamp: https://joshispeachy.bandcamp.com/releases
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday May 08, 2020
46: The Love You Need
Friday May 08, 2020
Friday May 08, 2020
Ezra (he/him) is a cat dad who identifies as aromantic. Ezra talks about the importance of aromanticism in his life, not identifying under the split-attraction model, and his experience with witchcraft and tarot reading.
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday May 01, 2020
45: Aces and Aros are LGBTQ+
Friday May 01, 2020
Friday May 01, 2020
Sherry (she/her) is a future law student who identifies as asexual and aromantic. Sherry responds to a list of arguments against aces and aros being in the LGBTQ+ community, pulled from a thread on A OK’s twitter page.
Donate to the WHO/United Nations COVID-19 Solidarity Response Fund here: http://tinyurl.com/DONATE6feet
Watch the livestream on Saturday, May 2nd @ 11am PDT / 2pm EDT / 7pm BST here: http://tinyurl.com/WATCH6feet
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Apr 24, 2020
44: But You're Married and You Have Kids!
Friday Apr 24, 2020
Friday Apr 24, 2020
Melissa Caruso (she/her) is a fantasy author who identifies as biromantic and asexual. Melissa talks about coming out to her husband and children, her secret to writing allosexual characters, and her upcoming book, The Obsidian Tower.
AVEN (asexuality.org);
Empire of the Sand by Tasha Suri (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/39714124-empire-of-sand);
Melissa Caruso's website: melissacaruso.net;
Melissa's Twitter: @melisscaru;
Donate to the WHO/United Nations COVID-19 Solidarity Response Fund here: http://tinyurl.com/DONATE6feet
Watch the livestream on Saturday, May 2nd @ 11am PDT / 2pm EDT / 7pm BST here: http://tinyurl.com/WATCH6feet
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Apr 17, 2020
43: 25 Years to Figure It Out
Friday Apr 17, 2020
Friday Apr 17, 2020
Chris (he/him) is an escape room enthusiast who is homoromantic graysexual. Chris talks about "getting comfortable with" asexuality, his experience dating, and his adventures in 60+ escape rooms.
Content Warnings: mentions of genital mutilation
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Apr 10, 2020
42: This is Like Explaining Physics!
Friday Apr 10, 2020
Friday Apr 10, 2020
Erica Cameron (she/her) is a young adult author who identifies as WTF-romantic and asexual. Erica discusses her past marriage and divorce, aro and ace characters in literature, and the importance of roommates.
Erica's Website: http://byericacameron.com
Coming Up Aces (Asexual Q&A): http://byericacameron.com/wp/q-ace/
Content Warnings: swearing, divorce
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Apr 03, 2020
41: I'm Gay But I Don't Like Sex
Friday Apr 03, 2020
Friday Apr 03, 2020
Daniel (he/him) is a YouTuber and engineer who is homoromantic and asexual. Daniel talks about his experiences dating allosexual men, his current long-distance relationship, and his YouTube channel Slice of Ace!
Warnings: swearing
Slice of Ace: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3vDNqa_MMGI43NAO2C-JJw
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Mar 27, 2020
40: I Am My Own and No One Else's
Friday Mar 27, 2020
Friday Mar 27, 2020
Maddy (she/her and they/them) is a genderqueer music nerd who is greyromantic and bisexual. Maddy talks about changing labels, ethical non-monogamy, and an unexpected romantic experience after she had already embraced the term "aromantic."
Twin Cities Sirens: https://www.facebook.com/tcsirens/
Content Warnings: swearing, mentions of childhood sexual abuse
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Mar 20, 2020
39: I Don't Give a D*** About Sex
Friday Mar 20, 2020
Friday Mar 20, 2020
Leo (he/him) is a medical student from Puerto Rico who identifies as quasiromantic and asexual. Leo talks about his experiences with women, what intimacy means to him, and why aces and aros are definitely LGBTQIA+.
Content Warnings: swearing
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Mar 13, 2020
38: Little Hominids on a Rock in Space
Friday Mar 13, 2020
Friday Mar 13, 2020
Vincent Scott (he/him & they/them) is a writer who identifies as asexual and aromantic. Vincent talks about toxic masculinity, trends of sexuality throughout history, and his new novel!
Warnings: depression and social anxiety
Link to Vincent's Kickstarter campaign: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/thinkinginkpress/the-hereafter-bytes?ref=user_menu
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Mar 06, 2020
37: I Want to Have Kids!
Friday Mar 06, 2020
Friday Mar 06, 2020
Laura (she/her) is a student and dancer in Finland who identifies as asexual and cupioromantic. She discusses wanting children as an asexual, why she’s still questioning her romantic orientation, and ace and aro book recommendations.
Content Warnings: none
Book Mentions: Summer Bird Blue by Akemi Dawn Bowman, Radio Silence by Alice Oseman, Loveless by Alice Oseman, Tash Hearts Tolstoy by Kathryn Ormsbee, Beyond the Black Door by A.M. Strickland, Tarnished are the Stars by Rosiee Thor, & Let's Talk About Love by Claire Kann.
The Asexual and Aromantic Characters Database: https://www.obvibase.com/p/N7SD6v1F4mrVBWzV/?location=%7B%22type%22:%22table%22,%22databaseId%22:%22N7SD6v1F4mrVBWzV%22,%22queryPath%22:%7B%22recordPath%22:[],%22columnPath%22:[%221%22]%7D%7D
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Feb 28, 2020
36: The Best Part of Being a Witch
Friday Feb 28, 2020
Friday Feb 28, 2020
Rowan (they/them) is a tarot reader and hairstylist who identifies as demisexual and greyromantic. Rowan talks about their ultimate dream-relationship, why they masturbate, tarot reading, paganism, and witchcraft!
Content warnings: mentions of sex, masturbation, swearing
LISTENER SURVEY: https://forms.gle/9Pwpz7QpifbvniUBA
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Feb 21, 2020
35: Friendship Chemistry
Friday Feb 21, 2020
Friday Feb 21, 2020
Christy (they/them & she/her) is a movement artist with disabilities who identifies as grey-aro and grey-ace. Christy talks about the stereotypes that come with being an asian femme poledancer and a disabled aromantic asexual. They also describe visible vs invisible parts of identity, sexual attraction vs sexual desire, and how sex education can be improved.
Content Warnings: mentions of sexual trauma and racism
Christy's Instagram: @catwoman_chris (includes censored nudity)
LISTENER SURVEY: https://forms.gle/9Pwpz7QpifbvniUBA
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Feb 14, 2020
34: Imposter Syndrome but for Being Gay
Friday Feb 14, 2020
Friday Feb 14, 2020
Gwen Elledge (she/her) is an astronomy nerd and jock who identifies as asexual and biromantic (but usually just says gay). Gwen talks about changing labels, being touch-starved, Tinder, and the wonders of gravity.
Content Warnings: none
LISTENER SURVEY: https://forms.gle/9Pwpz7QpifbvniUBA
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Feb 07, 2020
33: Exploring Identities Through RPGs
Friday Feb 07, 2020
Friday Feb 07, 2020
Devon (they/them) is a Japanese translator who identifies as asexual, aromantic, and agender. Devon discusses role-playing as identity exploration, sex and romance as the focal point in western music, and why they are looking forward to starting estrogen.
Content Warnings: swearing and mentions of racism, aphobia, and transphobia
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Jan 31, 2020
32: A Supernatural Love for Shapeshifting
Friday Jan 31, 2020
Friday Jan 31, 2020
Dean D’Monic is ace, agender, and known as the Shapeshifter of the Twin Cities. We talk about what it means to be an ace advocate, what it’s like to perform at the Renaissance Festival and in drag shows, and Dean’s late husband.
Follow Dean D'Monic on YouTube (Dean D’Monic) and Twitter (@dean_d_monic)!
Content Warnings: swearing
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Jan 24, 2020
31: How To Fake Eye Contact
Friday Jan 24, 2020
Friday Jan 24, 2020
Caitlin (they/them) is a crafter who identifies as asexual and panromantic (or maybe biromantic). Caitlin talks about being autistic and asexual, what they want in a relationship, and representation in season two of Sex Education on Netflix.
Content Warnings: swearing
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Jan 17, 2020
30: Truth Can Change and That's Okay
Friday Jan 17, 2020
Friday Jan 17, 2020
John Arrow (he/him) is a second-grade teacher and fem slash convention organizer who identifies as bisexual/queer and aromantic. John and Courtney bond over their experiences trying to date as aromantic people, and John talks about representation, ace and aro headcanons, and his friend's YouTube series (BIFL) featuring asexual and aromantic characters.
Watch BIFL: https://www.bifltheseries.com/watch-now
Content Warnings: swearing
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Jan 10, 2020
29: I Do Not Want to Be Licked
Friday Jan 10, 2020
Friday Jan 10, 2020
Janet (she/her) is a retired I.T. manager who identifies as asexual. Janet reflects on her past marriages, tells us a bittersweet love story between herself and a married woman, and tries to figure out how to proceed with life now as a 72 year-old asexual.
Warnings: detailed descriptions of french kissing, swearing, masturbation, mentions of sex and bodily fluids.
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Jan 03, 2020
28: Let's Smash Normal
Friday Jan 03, 2020
Friday Jan 03, 2020
Sophie Katz (she/her) is a writer who identifies as panromantic and demisexual. Sophie points out the parallels between anosmic and asexual experiences, explains how growing up Jewish prepared her for certain challenges, and reminisces about what it was like to write for Disney.
Content Warnings: swearing, antisemitism
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Dec 27, 2019
27: Ultimate Form of Intimacy
Friday Dec 27, 2019
Friday Dec 27, 2019
Graham (they/them) is your best friend who identifies as demiromantic/queer, and who is also questioning their asexuality. Graham explains how they can tell the difference between romantic feelings versus how they feel pre-romance. Courtney and Graham also discuss how society ties together sexuality and body image, and how Graham’s journey with their own body has changed.
Content Warnings: mentions of trauma, swearing
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Dec 20, 2019
26: Dear God, PLEASE HELP!
Friday Dec 20, 2019
Friday Dec 20, 2019
Joci (she/her) is a poet and artist who realized she was aromantic and asexual at age 46. Joci talks about her time studying at a bible college nicknamed “bridal college,” aphobia in the Christian community, and a marriage proposal that went right over her head.
Content Warnings: aphobia, large focus on Christianity and faith.
Resources: Aven: The Asexual Visibility & Education Network, Wee3beasties feline rescue.
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Dec 13, 2019
25: Ace People Can Still Knock One Off
Friday Dec 13, 2019
Friday Dec 13, 2019
Jim (he/him) is a maker and engineer who identifies as asexual and heteroromantic. Jim explains how Dungeons and Dragons helped him realize he was asexual. Courtney and Jim also go into the pressures society places on cis het men to engage in sexual activities.
Content Warnings: swearing, mentions of masturbation
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Dec 06, 2019
24: I Thought He Was a Lousy Lover
Friday Dec 06, 2019
Friday Dec 06, 2019
Jude (she/her) is an author who identifies as anegosexual and "historically" romantic. She explains what it's like to be asexual in a long-term marriage with someone who is allosexual, the complexities of coming out to her children, and what an "ace happy ending" might look like.
Jude's book: Body Parts and Mind Games
Content Warnings: aphobia
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde;
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler;
Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License.
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!
Friday Nov 29, 2019
Holiday Message
Friday Nov 29, 2019
Friday Nov 29, 2019
Episode Transcript:
As you may have seen announced on the A OK twitter page, we don't have a new interview this week. I sincerely apologize for skipping this week, especially as I know that the holiday season is ramping up, which I know is the hardest time of year for many in the LGBTQIA community. That being said, I wanted to take a moment to remind you that being you is not a bad thing. You are wonderful, and you are valid, and you are seen. Please remember to be kind to yourself, and do whatever you need to do to make it out of the next few months in one piece. Being under the asexual and aromantic umbrellas can be tough, but we've got this. You've got this. I really do think of you all as friends, and as a community I never really felt like I had before. Thank you so much for being here and for being you.
Special Thanks:
Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde (www.sofilalonde.com);
Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler (www.ratsandchildren.co);
And thank you to our wonderful patrons at https://www.patreon.com/AOKpod!